Moving the Goalposts

[John]

I will only make one comment.
Please be fully aware of how you and your OH cope.

My FIL tried to look after my MIL.
Very good, devoted, married for years, his view, she is mine she is my responsibility.
Very good.

But on one of our visits we noted MIL very badly bruised.
FIL had been having to bump her up and down stairs. Not intentional, not battering, just that try as he might he could not cope.
MIL ended up in a home.

I do appreciate the TLC that he tried to give her but sometimes we just can't cope.
Just please be aware both for yourselves and your MIL.
Particularly if she has or gets dementia.
John
PS I know it is a very painful period for all to go through, even MIL now having to accept that she can no longer cope and has had to ask for help.

My thoughts are with you.