when does a preper become a raider

[grumpy old man]

skvez
if i saw signals the yard was lived in then i would have to force contact to find out how the land lies, if i could not get a response then i would return and (raid the place) i know it sounds bad but if i need it and could not deal for it then so be it.
after an event it is not wise to be the gray man to much. if you have geared up defence and have a place that will be targeted unlike a normal house, you should give an option to talk first, when you resort to aggresstion you might have just lost.
there is a difference from operational secuirty and being the gray man.
the gray man is only a small tool in the box in an after event thing keeping a low profile is not as important as aggressive defence which is you last line of safty.