What do you do when your OH is not "onboard"?

[Straight Shooter]

Very familiar mary, but slowly slowly catch a monkey, had the OH TELLING ME! today about security measures and some bloody good solutions , I am amazed by her attention to detail and depth of what ifs, it took me completely by surprise, it would be smug on me to say I won here over , more likely she has arrived in the same place as where I am under her own steam , just go's to show after forty five years she can surprise me still ....love her unconditional love for me ....I got lucky the day we met, long may that continue.